Do women become more or LESS lustful when they orgasm before the man's climax?

For over 20 years, a number of people have been spreading the belief that during sexual activity, a man should always ensure that the woman orgasms before he does. This is another great opportunity for me to identify a public misperception of an issue and smash it to bits.

Unfortunately, some women are unwitting BS artists when they tell men what kind of sex they want. Women as accurate and straightforward as me are rare. When I tell you what women want, I am much more accurate and reliable than most other women (and men as well). I am the accuracy princess! 🤩

You just can’t rely on things that people tell you. I see it happening all the time. For example, a woman says to her boyfriend:

“I want a snuggly bear to keep me warm in winter.”

So, he stops shaving his chest hair (and the rest of it), and he stops trimming his armpit hair, and what thanks does he receive in the end? She says that she wanted a bear and not a yeti.

But it is not only women spreading the belief that women must orgasm first. Men are also guilty of spreading it. Man or woman, I do not believe anything that anybody tells me anymore. I do not even believe my own man anymore. When he says, “I want to have sex”, I reply, “Prove it”.

Or at least, that is what he and I used to say. Because of me telling him to prove it, he has not said “I want to have sex” for a long time. Now he says, “I demand sex.”

And then I reply, “You can demand it all you like, but it’s not going to change the fact that --”

And then he interrupts me by ravishing me, because he knows that he is never going to get it any other way. I don’t think I’ve ever said yes to sex in my entire life. I certainly did not say yes when I lost my virginity. I said, “Proceed.”

Anyway, let’s not get sidetracked. Here is an example of the BS that both men and women spread about the order of orgasms:

“Stroke her tenderly to show her that you care about her. Enter her slowly to make sure it doesn’t hurt. Check in with her after a few minutes to see if she is still okay with everything. Most importantly, don’t ever climax before she does. Make it all about her. Remember, she comes first.”

I think I am going to be sick. 🤢 Major BS alert! Airplane with cargo bay full of BS coming in for a crash landing!

🛬💩💩💩🤮🤮🤮

“Stroke her tenderly” sounds like petting a dog. In fact, the entire paragraph sounds like a description of screwing the pooch. Disgusting, utterly disgusting.

In the real world, the following is more like what the man needs to do:

He should grab his woman lustfully and kiss her passionately and then wildly fuck her for his own selfish pleasure. He should not think about her pleasure or his love for her. He should satisfy his massive hot lust for her, and he should wildly and savagely work himself up to his climax without caring whether she orgasms or not.

He should be thinking only about his own orgasm, not hers. He should fuck her brains out. Fuck the crap out of her. Fuck her into next week! Rip a new hole in her and stick your dick in it!

Wait, WAIT! Cancel that last one. Repeal it. It is gross, and I really went too far with that one. I got carried away, because – you know – sex is exciting. The correct list of instructions should end with “Fuck her into next week”. No ripping of new holes, please.

When I walk around the house wearing nothing other than my panties and a man’s business shirt, do you think it means that I want a man to politely and respectfully give me an orgasm before getting his orgasm? Do not be naive!

When I wear only those two pieces of clothing, it means that I want the man to burn up with desire for me, and grab me, and impatiently yank my panties down, and shove his turbocharged jackhammer inside, and get the orgasm that he so desperately needs. He comes first. If he does a good job of coming first, then sometime after he finishes, I will want to ride him to get my own climax on top of him.

Here is a quotation from the book “The Science of Orgasm” (ISBN 978-0801884900):

“Other research found a curious correlation with this timing of orgasms: women’s desire to become pregnant could be predicted by the frequency of orgasm after the partner’s orgasm; frequency of orgasm before the partner’s orgasm was not a significant predictor of desire for pregnancy.”

Thus, a woman is significantly more likely to desire to be impregnated by a particular man when he comes first if she often orgasms after his ejaculation. Desiring to be impregnated by a particular man is a sign of strongly favoring and loving him.

In contrast, women exhibit no increase in desire for pregnancy when the woman orgasms first, even if she frequently has dozens of orgasms before the man’s ejaculation.

This explains why I am more likely to get knocked up by a lustful gangster than a so-called “nice guy” that always waits until I orgasm first. Obviously, a gangster is not my first choice of man, but a gangster is less bad than a “nice guy”.

The “vacuum cleaner vagina” theory

I need to clarify something here, otherwise some people will think that I support the “vacuum cleaner vagina” (A.K.A. “upsuck”) theory. According to this wild theory, a female orgasm causes the vagina to transform into a vacuum cleaner and vacuum up all the semen and suck it straight into the uterus.

Let me make it quite clear that although I do regularly fantasize about having a “vacuum cleaner vagina” (especially one powerful enough to suck the semen straight out of the guy’s penis even before he ejaculates), I do not actually believe that my vagina is a vacuum cleaner in reality. I am not insane.

Some people are insane. They do believe in the “vacuum cleaner vagina”. This theory has been floating around for at least three decades. It is a kind of “zombie theory”, because scientists keep killing it, but then other people resurrect it again and again.

Furthermore, sperm has a tail (flagellum) that can be clearly seen with a microscope. The tail is used to propel the sperm. Thus, sperm are motile and can swim by themselves. They do not need any suction to reach the ovum.

Nevertheless, people keep resurrecting this zombie suction theory. Somebody please kill this bastard zombie fucker once and for all. Do it like they don’t do in the movies. Movie characters are so stupid. They stab the zombie in the chest, and then they are shocked when it does not die. It should be blatantly obvious that they need to saw off the zombie’s head and feed it to starving wild pigs. Trust me, it works.

The effect of arousal and orgasm on the vagina and uterus

The following diagram shows a cross-section of a woman’s pelvic anatomy when in the normal unaroused state. The woman is lying face-up on a bed or other horizontal surface.

As you can see in the following diagram, when the woman is sexually aroused, the vaginal barrel expands in size, and the uterus and cervix are pulled up and away from the vagina. This is called “vaginal tenting”. The female body does this for an important reason.

The following diagram shows where the man’s semen is deposited in the vagina after he ejaculates. Notice how the pool of semen is located some distance away from the cervix (away from the entrance to the uterus).

After the man has ejaculated and finished, if it is a case of rape, then the woman would most likely stand up and leave as soon as the rapist finishes (as soon as he releases her). While she is standing upright, the semen flows out of her vagina without coming into contact with her cervix and without entering her uterus.

This prevents her from being impregnated by the rapist in most cases, provided that she stands up within 30 minutes after the rape and remains upright or seated (not lying down) for a sufficient duration of time for all of the semen to finish leaking out of her vagina. Thus, vaginal tenting serves as a partial defense against rape.

If the sex was consensual, and if it was sufficiently stimulating, then the woman may feel a desire to get her own orgasm. She may use her fingers to stimulate her vulva and a nipple. The man should assist with the stimulation. Some couples use cunnilingus.

After the woman orgasms, her uterus drops back down to its normal position, and the vagina collapses back to its normal size. The cervix drops into the pool of semen (as shown following), thereby enabling the sperm to enter the uterus.

In addition, her orgasm makes her sleepy and encourages her to remain lying and not stand up. This causes the semen to remain in the vagina, thereby increasing the probability of impregnation. Alternatively, if she has no orgasm, then the vaginal tenting will eventually subside after 30-60 minutes.

Clearly, the system is designed for the man to orgasm first. If the woman always orgasms first, then the system will be disrupted.

Women like being cum-dumps (conditions apply)

The truth is that most women (including me) enjoy being used as a “cum-dump”. However, there is a big difference between a classy woman and a trashy woman:

• A trashy woman is not fussy about which men use her as a cum-dump. If she is extra-trashy, she even enjoys being used by multiple men at the same time and not knowing which one is the father of her baby.

• In contrast, I am a classy woman with self-respect, therefore I only enjoy being used as a cum-dump by a high-quality man of my choice, and I am very fussy, and I expect humongous favors in return.

If a “nice guy” never ever uses me as a cum-dump, not even on the weekends, then I am forced to wonder, why not? Does he not desire to impregnate me? Am I not desirable enough according to his personal preferences? Is he a gelding? A eunuch? A monk?

Something is severely screwed up in the head of a boyfriend if he never ever wants to use me as a cum-dump. I am a very sexy woman. What’s wrong with him??? I would definitely use myself as a cum-dump if I were a man. I would be crazy not to.

You know what I really enjoy on a Sunday? A sexy high-quality man giving me a long hard back massage and then passionately using me as his own personal cum-dump, followed by cooking pancakes for me while I stay in bed. Breakfast in bed. I like the princess treatment very much.

“Nice guys” do not understand that the princess treatment includes using the princess as a cum-dump, because the princess is beautiful and irresistible, and it is a deeply-cutting insult to not desire to dump loads of cum into her. Every healthy heterosexual man should wish to dump his entire load into her. The more, the merrier.

Taking turns at being selfish

Each couple can decide for themselves which style of sex they enjoy the most, but in my opinion, it is enjoyable to allow selfish sexual acts at least occasionally. There is nothing wrong with a single act of sex being entirely for the benefit of only one of the partners, provided the “sum total” at the end of the month is reasonably balanced/fair. Taking turns is good.

Excessive or obsessive focus on the woman’s orgasm

Like many women, I do not need or want to have my orgasm every time. I want to have it only when I want to have it. Sometimes a man seems to be unable or unwilling to understand that women are capable of enjoying sex without having an orgasm every time. A man should never force or pressure a woman into having orgasms more often than she desires.

The goal of sex should not be a female orgasm, rather it should be mutual enjoyment of sex. If the man has an orgasm every time, and the woman has an orgasm every second or third time, then there is nothing wrong with this arrangement if this is what she wants.

In some cases, a man has an unhealthy obsession with the woman’s orgasms. This can be caused by an anxiety disorder causing the man to develop a delusional/paranoid belief that his wife will leave him if he does not make her orgasm every time. This irrational fear can cause the man to wish that he had complete control over his wife’s orgasms.

He thinks women like his patience

Many men (especially “nice guys”) make the mistake of thinking that women like it when the man patiently waits for his turn. Men think they are being considerate and thoughtful by delaying their orgasm until after the woman’s orgasm. However, only a minority of women like this.

If I was in a long-distance relationship, or if sex was delayed for an unusually long time for any reason, and then we finally meet up and get the opportunity to have sex after all the frustrating delays, if he has no sense of urgency, if he has no difficulty patiently waiting for me to orgasm first, then I would hate him.

His effortless patience after weeks of delays means that his desire for me is weak. He does not deserve me. The relationship is weak when the man’s desire is weak. The relationship will not survive long-term when the man has such weak desire for me.

Also when sex is not delayed, in any situation, if the man is able to patiently wait for his turn to get his climax, then it indicates that his desire for me is weak.

Like many or most women, I dislike weak desire in a man, and I enjoy sex much better when the man is impatient, wild, very lustful, and greedy for more. I want to be capable of making him lose control of himself.

In my view, it is a very satisfactory form of power-sharing and equality/balance in a relationship when both of these are true:

• I feel powerful, because I am so desirable that I have the power to make my man feel overwhelmed with intense desire for me, and to make him lose control of himself.

• He feels powerful, because he can fuck me almost anytime that he wants to, even when I am not in the mood for sex, and he makes me so very wet and aroused that I choose to shut my mouth and not say our safeword (“Stop”).

If I notice that my partner appears to have lost his self-control and self-restraint as a result of having intense overwhelming lust for me, I feel that I am a highly desirable, sexy, and powerful woman, and I become extremely randy within seconds.

Nothing makes my pussy ache with lust faster and harder than this situation. I push my ravenous pussy towards him with much impatience and enthusiasm. I want him to penetrate me immediately and give me a thorough pussy-pounding.

When the woman desires to ride the man

Sometimes during the man-on-top position, the man stimulates me very well, and I develop a desire to ride him and bring myself to my climax on top of him. Before he climaxes, I tell him that I want to switch to the woman-on-top position. I never had sex with any man that was not happy to switch to the woman-on-top position before his climax.

Whenever I desire to ride the man, it is obviously a day when I should orgasm first, because I need his erection while I am riding him. The first erection is the hardest one – the best one for me. If he climaxes first, then I would be forced to suffer the frustrating delay until he can get an erection again, and it is likely to be softer than his first erection, therefore less enjoyable for me.

The solution

Honestly, if I had a boyfriend that always ensured that I orgasm first, I would lose respect for him. If the woman always orgasms first, or if the man always orgasms first, either way, they are both bad.

Most couples will get better results if they do different things on different days, depending on their mood. On some days, the man should orgasm first. On some other days, the woman should orgasm first. Novelty and variety improve sex in a relationship.