Sex with alpha males is MUCH better
Evolution is the cause of this.
This article is intended for adult audiences. It covers the following topics:
What women think and feel about sex and love.
The difference between an alpha male and an independent male.
Do alpha males “ruin” women for all other men?
How & why women evolved to feel attracted and repulsed by the different social ranks of men.
The original operation of alpha and beta males in small tribes in ancient history.
How is a woman’s attraction to males affected by the fertile days in her menstrual cycle?
My sexual experiences with beta versus non-beta males, and the differences that I felt.
Are “alpha widows” real?
Can a man be desirable if he is not an alpha? What can he do to be successful with women?
How important is the man’s job in determining whether women can be attracted to him?
Can a man simply choose to be an alpha or a beta?
The dual-mating strategy of X% of women.
How does hormonal contraception change women’s attraction to men?
Let me tell you something important about how sex and love are experienced from the female perspective.
In general, women strongly favor alpha males and independent males over beta males. Now before you get angry at women and become an incel or a misogynist, keep in mind that it is not only women that do this.
The entire human society (including men) dislikes or disrespects beta males. Even beta males dislike other beta males. Nobody truly respects beta males. A beta male even dislikes himself (low self-esteem).
Note that I am actually trying to help people, not be a bitch. Concealing the truth about human sexual behavior hurts many people, whereas openly discussing it leads to solutions and increased satisfaction and happiness.
Before we discuss this topic in detail, we need to clarify the terminology.
🤴🏻 The difference between an alpha male and an independent male
The definition of an alpha male varies. Sometimes people include independent males in the definition of alpha male, and sometimes people view these as separate categories.
An independent male has no beta males serving him. He has nobody above or below him. Examples of independent males include:
A freelancer.
A consultant.
An author.
An architect.
An electrician.
A carpenter.
A lawyer (if not working in a law firm).
Some small business owners.
A man that inherited enough wealth to never need employment.
And others.
A dentist or a medical doctor in his own private practice would be classified as an alpha male, because he employs assistants and/or a receptionist.
In a corporation, the executives are alphas, and the rest of the employees are betas. Although a team leader or a middle-manager has staff members below him, he is not their employer, therefore he is a beta male, albeit a higher-ranked beta male.
The less independent a man is, and the less self-determination he has, and the more subservient and obedient he is, the more of a beta male he is.
🧬 The evolution of female sexual attraction
It is important to understand that most women (or maybe all women) evolved to strongly favor getting fucked and impregnated by an alpha male or an independent male and not a beta male, because beta males had multiple disadvantages on average:
Lower genetic quality (on average), such as reduced health, endurance, and virility.
Less ability to protect a pregnant woman and her children from thieves, murderers, etc.
Fewer resources to support and nourish a family.
Less determination, persistence, ambition, and courage.
Higher prevalence of anxiety disorders including extreme cowardice and fear-induced subservience.
Higher prevalence of masochistic personality disorder.
More likely to sacrifice himself and his own family for the benefit of a powerful man, a wealthy man, an egotistic/narcissistic leader, a warmonger, or a megalomaniac.
In ancient times, humans lived in tribes. A tribe consisted of up to 40 or 50 people led by a strong masculine alpha male. Every woman in the tribe dreamed of being the alpha male’s partner, but this was impossible, because the tribe contained perhaps 10 to 25 women and only one alpha male.
Consequently, women were left with no choice other than to partner with beta males in the tribe. However, they still wished for the alpha male. The alpha male had sex with multiple women in the tribe, and he did not form a monogamous relationship with them, and he did not fall in love with them.
Alternatively, it is possible that some tribes were led by a mated pair consisting of an alpha male and an alpha female (similar to a king and a queen). In this case, the alpha male favored the alpha female and had a relationship with her (and only her), but he still had occasional casual sex with the beta females in the tribe.
Women evolved to get pregnant more easily and more often when having sex with the alpha male than with any beta male. As a result of this evolution, sex with an alpha male is more likely to lead to the woman having an orgasm and desiring more sex with this man. This increases the chance of getting pregnant from alpha males.
In addition, women evolved to feel more strongly attracted to alpha males during the fertile/ovulatory phase of their menstrual cycle, causing fertile women to seek sex with the alpha male on these days, causing an increased probability of getting impregnated by the alpha male.
A woman’s sexual attraction to an alpha male operates without love. The subconscious goal is to get impregnated by a high-quality man regardless of whether he loves her or she loves him.
🔥 My sexual experiences
When I got fucked by an alpha male (actually an independent male) for the first time in my life, it was a mind-blowing experience. I was in ecstasy for multiple reasons:
I did not know or expect it to be better, and so the surprise of it intensified the thrill.
It was really much better than sex with a beta male.
In comparison, the prior beta male had never thrusted hard enough, whereas the independent male did thrust very well.
The independent male desired me stronger than any beta male is capable of doing.
When I had the sex with this independent male, I was not in love with him, and he was not in love with me. It was impossible for love to exist, because love takes time to develop, and we had not known each other for long enough. Love is not required to enjoy sex very much.
If I was forced to choose between...
Sex with a beta male that loves me very much.
Casual sex with an alpha or independent male that does not love me.
Then I would normally get much more pleasure and enjoyment from the sex with the alpha or independent male regardless of the lack of love. Ideally, I would seek to create a monogamous loving relationship with the independent male, but my great enjoyment of the sex begins immediately (prior to love), and it exceeds any sex with any beta male in the world.
👰🏻♀️ Alpha widows
Some guys invented the term “alpha widow”. This means a woman that has experienced sex with an alpha male (or an independent male), and therefore she knows how much better it is, but then for some reason she loses access to the alpha male and cannot find a replacement.
An alpha widow tries hard to replace her lost alpha male, but she may struggle if she is unattractive or too old, or if she has an obnoxious personality, or if the alpha males in the area are already married to other women and do not want to risk destroying their marriage/family.
If an alpha widow cannot replace her lost alpha male, then she will either decide to have no sex at all, or she may eventually downgrade to a beta male for reasons of companionship. Either way, she will experience much reluctance and disappointment.
I would be an alpha widow if I ever lost access to alpha males and independent males. Ever since I got fucked by an independent male for the first time, I have never gone back to any beta male.
I cannot go back. The difference is huge. After experiencing sex with an alpha or independent male, the idea of sex with a beta male makes me think, “Why bother? Not worth it.”
If I became an alpha widow and could not get a new alpha/independent male, then I would use a vibrator while imagining that an independent male is fucking me.
💖 You can be a desirable male
If you believe that you are a beta male, there is no reason to be offended or angry, because you can become the type of desirable man that I have described. It would be a misunderstanding to think:
“Joyce and other women have experienced alpha cock, and they would never accept me, because I don’t have my own business, and I am not a top executive.”
That is incorrect, because it is not what I meant. Furthermore, even if somebody is a CEO of a large corporation, he is only alpha in this one environment (inside of that particular corporation). He does not have an alpha rank in any other environments such as other organizations or anywhere outside of his corporation.
Furthermore, a CEO actually belongs to the working class (because he works), and he is subordinate to the board of directors of the corporation and the largest shareholders. For those reasons, his alpha status is debatable. Modern society is much more complex than a tribe that existed thousands of years ago.
In modern society, “beta male” is a mindset/attitude. It is possibly also a distinct neurological state in the human brain, but this is an unproven theory. I can confidently say that it is at least a mindset. Therefore, you can control your own beta status by changing your mindset and your behavior. This also triggers beneficial neurological changes and potentially even chemical improvements (natural hormones and neurotransmitters).
Obviously, the ideal life for a man is to have a mindset and an occupation/income that are both non-beta. However, human society is overcomplicated, very challenging, and dysfunctional, and most men do not achieve an ideal life, so we need to consider what happens when a man’s life is imperfect (as is usually the case).
What happens if a man’s mind is non-beta but his job is beta? How do women react to this imperfect combination? The answer is that women are divided into two groups as follows:
Group A: Women in this group feel attracted to a man’s alpha or independent mindset regardless of his job, especially if he has goals, and if he is determined to improve his life, and he is working on it. In this case, his mindset/attitude is more important than his job, rank, or social status. For this to succeed, his behavior needs to be consistent with his mindset. His communication, actions, and attitude should all indicate that he is not a beta male.
Group B: Women in this group are attracted to a man’s power and wealth. They require a man that has a high-ranking social status and a job that grants him power over the lives of other men (beta males). These women are not truly attracted to the powerful man, rather they are attracted to the ease of becoming almost as powerful as him by submitting to him and becoming second-in-command over all the betas. This is a quick-and-easy way for a woman to rapidly elevate herself in the social hierarchy.
If you are wondering which group I belong to, the answer is group A. I truly like men, and I like sex with men, and not for the purpose of gold-digging, social climbing, or addiction to power over betas.
✅ Beta is a choice
If a man is unwillingly working in a job that makes him look like a beta, then this alone does not make him a beta, rather it means that he is suffering temporary bad luck or difficult circumstances in life.
On the other hand, if he is doing little or nothing to attempt to escape from the beta job, then he is a beta male, because he has accepted it instead of making goals and striving to improve his life.
One of the worst things that a man could do to harm his own attractivity is to voluntarily choose to be a beta male. The majority of women are subconsciously repulsed by men that embrace their beta status. Conversely, the majority of women are subconsciously attracted to ambitious men that are firmly determined to be or become non-beta.
Ambition, planning, determination, and the drive toward self-improvement are characteristics that are highly valued by many women. A constructive mindset is very attractive and admirable.
🎭 The dual-mating strategy of X% of women
Women want to mate with alpha males or independent males, but this is difficult, because the number of women greatly exceeds the number of alpha males and independent males.
Evolution created a weird workaround that scientists call “the dual-mating strategy” of women. Some percentage of women have inherited this mechanism. During the infertile days of their menstrual cycle (most days), they actually feel most attracted to beta males with reduced masculinity.
Yes, you read that correctly. Those women prefer to make a relationship with a beta male, not with an alpha male.
However, during the few fertile days of their menstrual cycle, their preference flips completely, and they feel strongly attracted to alpha males and repulsed by beta males. When their fertile days pass, they revert back to feeling more attracted to beta males.
This temporary reversal of attraction occurs approximately once per month (the average length of a menstrual cycle is 28 days, ranging from 21 to 35 days).
The subconscious goal is cuckoldry: Without even realizing what she is doing, this type of woman aims to get impregnated by a high-quality masculine alpha male while having a relationship with a kind supportive beta male (such as a “nice guy”). This beta male is partially effeminate or noticeably less masculine than the alpha male.
Only a certain percentage of women have this cuckoldry behavior. I belong to the percentage of women that did not inherit the dual-mating / cuckoldry strategy. Throughout my entire menstrual cycle, I always feel more attracted to alpha and independent males than beta males.
During my fertile days, I simply feel even more strongly attracted to alpha and independent males than during my non-fertile days. My preference is stable and does not switch back-and-forth between alpha and beta.
💊 Hormonal contraception badly disrupts sexual attraction
Note that hormonal contraception tends to disrupt and alter women’s preferences for men in a very bad way, including causing women to favor incompatible immune systems (MHC) in men, leading to having less healthy children. A woman’s attraction to alpha males versus beta males is often disrupted (weakened or sometimes even reversed) by hormonal contraception.
In addition, hormonal contraception can cause other bad side-effects such as reduced motivation/drive, reduced cognitive function, and increased risk of depression. For most women, non-hormonal contraception (such as a copper IUD) is far better, but each woman should visit a gynecologist and get advice for her individual circumstances (this is important).
⛔ Make no alliances with betas
It is normally a major mistake to join or form an alliance with betas of either gender. Betas are terrible allies.
First, let's examine what alphas do. If you form an alliance with alphas, when the opportunity arises to make an excellent profit or advancement, your alpha-allies will vote to maximize the profit or advancement of the alliance including yourself. You all win. Great stuff.
Now let's examine what betas do. If you choose to have betas as your allies, then when the time comes to capitalize on a potential opportunity, over 51% of your beta-allies will vote against it. They will sabotage or cripple the success of their own alliance including themselves and you too, if you made the mistake of allying with them.
For example, labor unions (worker's unions) normally deliver much less benefit than they should. I am not saying they are useless. You may still benefit from joining a labor union, just not as much as you should. The benefits are there, but they are usually crippled and much smaller than they should be or could be.
The lackluster performance of a labor union occurs because it is an alliance between betas, and betas are programmed by evolution to sabotage (or at least cripple) themselves.
For example, try to convince your beta-buddies to demand a 50% payrise. There is no way they will do it. They will say that you are crazy, and that you are asking for far too much. “You're being unreasonable”, they will argue.
Your beta-buddies will invent every illogical excuse under the Sun to cripple themselves and vote to accept a measly 5% payrise offer instead of demanding a truly fair deal.
In contrast, if your alliance members are all alphas, then when you suggest the 50% payrise, they will enthusiastically support it. They will say:
“We might not succeed in getting as much as 50%, but we should at least try it. We have nothing to lose by trying. Let's do it!”
For example:
A group of alphas demands a 50% payrise and accepts 30%.
A group of betas demands a 15% payrise and accepts 7%.
Or something similar to that in principle. That is why you should never ally with betas. They are the worst. They are hellbent on crippling themselves, and they will drag you down at the same time as dragging themselves down. That is the nature of the tribal beta-brain that was created over thousands of years of human evolution.