How vibrators wreck your sex-life
Trust me, I'm a sexpert. No, wait, that sounds bad. Just try this and see for yourself.
One day, I decided to destroy my vibrators. I melted them to death in my oven. It was sad but satisfying at the same time. Since that day, I have never again purchased any vibrator, because my sex-life is better without them. There are several reasons why this is true.
It is normal and natural for a woman to only feel the best pleasure when a man is thrusting hard and fast. However, when I was using a vibrator regularly, it caused my need to be fucked hard to increase to an unnatural degree.
Hmmmm, that does not sound so bad. Actually, it almost sounds good. Really good! But this is only a misunderstanding. Let me explain what I mean.
It was bad, because I needed to be fucked ridiculously hard. Impossibly hard. Something only an industrial robot would be capable of doing. Sex should not require a crazy-extreme degree of forcefulness in order to feel a half-decent amount of pleasure. In other words, the vibrator desensitized me to sex. See, that is bad.
Sex with a man felt less enjoyable. Good sex is important for a relationship. Therefore, anything that damages the sex with your partner (such as a vibrator) is also damaging your relationship.
In addition to reducing my pleasure when my boyfriend was thrusting, I also found it more difficult to orgasm with a man. Having multiple orgasms with a man became practically impossible. Life without multiple orgasms is a total shitshow!
When I was regularly orgasming with a vibrator, I was inadvertently training myself to get my pleasure from a sexual activity that is significantly different than sex with any man. No man is capable of moving like a vibrator. Even if a vibrator vibrated only weakly or slowly, the problem still exists, because a vibrator feels quite different than real sex.
💣 It disrupted my masturbation as well
The vibrator usage also damaged my ability to get pleasure from masturbation using my fingers alone. The more I used a vibrator, the more I lost the ability to bring myself to orgasm without a vibrator.
As I said, an absolute shitshow.
💣 Disruption of responsive arousal & desire
Because my enjoyment of sex with a man decreased, it also became more difficult for me to get wet in response to an attractive man grabbing me. Thus, the vibrator disrupted my responsive arousal and desire.
I want to start getting wet automatically as soon as I realize that my boyfriend wants to take me. And if he is Han Solo wanting to ravish me, I want to get wet INSTANTLY. Like from one millisecond to the next, BAM! 💥🚿, gushing wet. That's how much I want to show Han Solo how much I like him.
However, if he must use a vibrator to assert his sexual dominance, then it is unconvincing, because it is like he needs assistance – as if he is incapable of doing it without assistance. That is not sexy. Han Solo should never need sexual assistance of any kind at any time or place.
💣 Cowgirl no fun anymore
The vibrator also damaged my ability to get Han Solo.... oops, I mean, my ability to get pleasure. Argh, wait a minute. Give me a moment to regain my concentration.
Okay, I'm back. What I meant to say is: The vibrator also damaged my ability to get pleasure and an orgasm when riding a man in the woman-on-top position.
It felt like my libido was broken.
At least occasionally, the active role is important to do (and very enjoyable as well). At least in my case, the best orgasm is when I bring myself to my own climax on top of a man. This is better than any vibrator, because I am in the active role.
My active role is necessary for three reasons:
To get my best orgasm.
To convince a naughty masculine man to be my partner.
To make a naughty masculine man monogamous.
If a vibrator is used as foreplay (without an orgasm) prior to doing the woman-on-top position, then it can potentially assist the sex, but it is a slippery slope. It is tempting to overuse a vibrator. It is not so much of a slippery slope as it is a slippery gaping chasm with a treacherous abyss at the bottom.
💣 The timing matters
When I used a vibrator prior to sex on the same day, it had the strongest effect on decreasing my pleasure during sex. Using the vibrator the day before sex was also bad. The more often I used the vibrator, the more it damaged my ability to enjoy real sex with a man.
Fortunately, the harm done by the vibrator was not permanent. A return from the Dark Side was very much possible. After I destroyed my evil vibrators, my ability to fully enjoy real sex with a man gradually returned. Now all I need is Han Solo, and I could just die straight after the sex, and I would still be deliriously happy.