Women are wild, men are tame, okay?

You may have been taught (or trained to believe) that women need to feel emotionally connected or in love with a man in order to want to have sex with him. You may have heard the following saying:

“Women need to feel loved to have sex. Men need to have sex to feel loved.”

That is BS and lies on top of more BS. It is not even close to the truth.

The truth is vastly different than the stereotypes propagated by society. According to the stereotypes and misleading depictions in society, women are much more romantic than men. However, after a man learns the truth, he may insist that the stereotype is a reversal of the truth, and that in reality, men are more romantic than women.

I do not want to say that one gender is more romantic than the other, rather I describe it as follows: Men and woman are differently romantic. Quite differently romantic.

Not only is romance different between the genders. Male sexuality and female sexuality are also quite different. Without the proper knowledge, men and women fail to bridge the gap between the genders.

If you intend to have successful sexual relationships in your life, including long-term relationships that do not end in separation or eventual failure of sexual activity after the honeymoon period, then this article is one of the most important articles that you will ever read.

💔 Prepare to be heartbroken beyond belief

If you are a male reader, then unfortunately, I must be the messenger of bad news. Very bad news. This is going to hurt a lot of men. Major heartbreak. Teary eyes. Screaming at trees in the forest.

“Why?? Why?! Why must Mother Nature be such a cruel mistress?! What did we ever do to deserve such misery and suffering?! Why must it be so?!”

But please know that my goal is not to hurt you, but rather to give you the keys to success. Unfortunately, the keys that I am about to give you hurt like hell.

Prepare to suffer immeasurable pain alongside complete destruction of your child-like naivety and the folly of your youth. Please stop reading now if you have any pre-existing heart condition or hypertension.

🐶 Male puppy-love / infatuation

Many men are prone to falling in love at first sight. They imagine and plan their entire future with a woman that they just met a few hours ago.

All too often, the situation is even worse: The man has already fallen head-over-heels in love with a woman that he has not even met in real life. He has not even spoken with her on the telephone or by video-chat! He might not even know her surname or her age, but he is ready to marry her already.

She is probably not even single. He did not ask. There are a hundred questions that he should have asked before loving her, and he asked none of them.

On one hand, he is obsessed with her, and he cannot stop thinking about her, but on the other hand, he neglects opportunities to get to know her better. He fills in the blanks in his knowledge of her with random positive/optimistic information copied from his own personality and imagination.

His love for her is merely puppy-love, and she knows it. And what is puppy-love? It is the love from a boy, not a man. A woman wants a man and not a starry-eyed boy in the body of a man.

Nearly all women think that when a man falls in love with a woman before meeting her in real life, it is 🤮-worthy. Some women describe it in a nicer way. They say that it is “sweet”. Believe me when I say that you do NOT want to be a sweet man. “Sweet” is a codeword that means “no sex forever”.

A man is suffering from an infatuation when he has very strong feelings of puppy-love or attraction for a woman when these feelings are unreasonable, sudden, and ephemeral (short-lived).

If a woman makes the mistake of having sex with a man that has puppy-love for her, then the sex is likely to be soft cuddle-sex. Afterwards, the infatuated man will rate the cuddle-sex as wonderful, whereas the woman will rate it as unsatisfying, unfulfilling, weak, and/or boring. Or even worse, “sweet”.

👩‍👦 A man wanting a woman to love him like a son

Sometimes a man wants a girlfriend or wife to love him as if he is her son. He does not realize that he is doing this. He is confused. He is not clear in his mind about whether he wants a female partner or a substitute mother.

He believes he wants a partner, but his description of his ideal partner is more like a maternal figure than a partner. Sometimes a woman does end up caring for her husband as if he is a kind of son, but this behavior kills sexual attraction/desire, because it is uncomfortably close to an incest-like arrangement.

A mother’s love for her son is a different type of love than her love for a husband. To have a successful relationship, a man should ensure that he is not mothered by his partner. For example, if a woman regularly cleans up the mess produced by her children and her husband, then the husband is allowing himself to be treated like a child.

No incest occurs in this situation, but merely the resemblance to incest is already enough to cause sexual attraction/desire to shut down in the female brain.

♾️ A man that wants unconditional love

Some men were abused when they were children. As adults, these men wish to receive unconditional love from a woman, despite the fact that this is impossible. Sometimes a man wishes for unconditional love so strongly and so desperately that he invents an imaginary god (or a son of a god) that gives him the impossible unconditional love.

The wish for unconditional love is a deeply disturbed and unhealthy wish. Unconditional love means that even if you rape and murder a child, or even if you engage in genocide, you will be forgiven and loved anyway.

A mentally healthy man never wishes for unconditional love from any woman or gods. If you are a woman and you are dating a man that starts talking fondly about unconditional love or “God’s love”, RUN!!

Alternatively, if he seems to be seeking maternal love, then this is less dramatic, and you can politely and gently reject him rather than immediately standing up and running away as fast as you can.

🐣 Which comes first? Love or sex?

On average, men fall in love much faster than women. This can create quite uncomfortable or awkward (or sometimes even creepy) situations for women, especially when a woman notices that a man has fallen deeply in love with her so extremely and so unreasonably fast that it seems like he is afflicted with some kind of madness.

Many men have a habit of falling in love with a woman before having sex with her (or after having sex only once). Alternatively, they believe that they should love a woman before having sex with her. This is a major problem, because most women operate in the reverse order – first sex, then love:

1. Sex.

2. Female orgasm.

3. Sleep in the same bed together.

4. Repeat the above steps multiple times.

5. Finally, love.

Note that you will not necessarily hear the truth if you ask a woman about love and sex. She is not intentionally lying, rather she has been indoctrinated by society to believe pleasant-sounding lies about human behavior.

Thus, she might verbally answer “First love, then sex”, but if you observe her behavior/actions, then it becomes apparent that her true order of operation is first sex, then love. For many women (and men too), the difference between what they say versus what they do is huge.

For most women including myself, this is true: If the man loves me very much and treats me superbly, then this is of course excellent, but this alone is insufficient to generate my love for him in return. Even if he is an extremely attractive man, it is still not enough to love him.

I am incapable of loving him until he seals the deal by having great sex with me multiple times over the course of several months. I need good sex, not only good thoughts. Good sex is a prerequisite for love. This cannot be changed, because it operates at a primal level.

Literally sleeping together is also a requirement for love. The man and I must have a habit of having sex and then falling asleep in each other’s arms and spending the night in bed together. If this does not happen, I cannot love the man even if I want to.

🦍 Female sexuality is more primal

On average, female sexuality is more primal (or more “animalistic”) than the sexual behavior of the majority of men.

Similar to animals, a woman’s attraction to a man is influenced by his scent. The female brain subconsciously analyzes a man’s scent to get hints about his masculinity, health, fitness, and immune system.

When not disrupted by hormonal contraception, a woman normally favors the scent of a man that has a Major Histocompatibility Complex (MHC) that is dissimilar to her own. This is beneficial because children have a stronger immune system when the parents have dissimilar MHCs. A woman’s preference for a dissimilar MHC also helps to avoid incest and inbreeding depression.

I am obviously a very intellectual woman, but this does not mean that my sexuality operates in some kind of intellectual/academic manner. I am incapable of enjoying sex if the man does it in an intellectual manner or with a male version of romance/love. An intellectual version of female sexuality does not exist. Women have primal/animalistic sexuality regardless of how intellectual we are.

Talking or thinking during sex (especially high-level cognition) shuts down (or at least disrupts) my sexual arousal and pleasure. If I am talkative during sex, then I am bored, and the man is not thrusting hard enough or not fast enough.

In that case, he should fuck me harder to shut me up, otherwise I will not enjoy the sex. If I am talkative (bored) during foreplay, it can mean that the duration of the foreplay is too long, and the man should hurry up and stick it in there to make me shut up.

Female sexuality is so primal that we enjoy sex more when it is performed without love. We do want to be loved, but not during sex. Ideally the man should demonstrate his love for the woman immediately after the sex finishes.

Men are capable of having and enjoying sex in a loving manner, whereas women are not. We can co-operate with gentle loving sex, but it produces little pleasure, and it is mostly unsatisfying / unfulfilling for us. A woman might do it in order to be nice to her partner, and she might even be happy enough to do it for him, but in this case, her goal is companionship and not her own sexual satisfaction.

Like other women, before I can develop love for a man, he must be capable of generating my eagerness to put myself on my hands and knees and receive him. Furthermore, he must have consensual sex with me in a manner that makes me feel like I am lustful female animal that cannot talk or move until he is finished mating with me. This is a requirement. If this does not occur, I will be unable to love him.

If I like a man a lot, and if he is attractive/desirable in my own personal opinion, and if he stares at me lustfully and says with a deep voice...

“I’m going to fuck you like an animal.”

...and if I think he really means what he says, and if I get the impression that his lust/desire for me is very strong, then I am excited by him, and I empathize with him (provided I like him), and I feel his strong lust as if it is my own, and then my crotch experiences rapid sexual arousal.

I feel my vagina becoming wet within seconds, and my labia and clitoris swell in size. My nipples also swell and stiffen. My vagina feels like it will break if it is not stretched and filled up. And then I need him to do what he said he would do – I need him to fuck me like an animal.

I let him choose the position – either the man-on-top position or doggy-style position or whatever he wants. The position is not so important for me at this point. I just need to feel his hard cock filling up my hungry vagina A.S.A.P.

And then if he started doing gentle loving cuddle-sex, I would scream with frustration. I need him to fuck me hard and fast, wildly and passionately as if we are a pair of very horny animals that are overwhelmed by our primal urge to mate with each other.

If a man does not make me feel like a lustful female animal during sex, then he has failed, and I am incapable of loving him, and I am unable to have a relationship with him.

👶🏻 In the female brain, sex is focused on baby-making

Women have a uterus, and the majority of us are pre-programmed to wish to use it. We have primal reproductive urges and wishes. We might not consciously realize it, but at least subconsciously in the female brain, sex is focused on baby-making, and preferably with high-quality males.

So, cancel any lofty ideas of high romance, unconditional love, and spiritual union during sex. To say it crudely but accurately and with brutal honesty, my fundamental driving desire is to be fucked and bred like a wild female animal mating with a high-quality virile stud. This is normal.

Mating with strength and vigor is the type of sexual activity that strongly activates my arousal and excitement. Mating is what makes me lustful and soaking wet in seconds, not gentle loving cuddle-sex or “spiritual union” or male versions of romance. Most women have the same sexual behavior as me, but not all will admit it.

Here is the truth about what the primal sexual/reproductive part of my female brain desires:

1️⃣ To get fucked and repeatedly impregnated by a high-quality man. “High-quality” means both mentally and physically high-quality (“sexy”) according to my own personal preferences and my own opinion/judgment (not according to a narcissistic/egotistical man’s inflated view of himself).

2️⃣ To be possessed by this high-quality man. My female brain desires to be his possession so that he will stay with me and support our children. Historically, it was very bad (potentially deadly) for a woman to be impregnated by a man that promptly leaves.

3️⃣ To be in a monogamous relationship with this man. To be pair-bonded with each other.

4️⃣ To be sexually dominated by this man in order to give him a firm and confident belief that all of my children are also his children, and that no cuckoldry is occurring, and that it is a smart choice to be loyal to me and to support all of the children that I produce.

5️⃣ To be impregnated by this man as a result of him specifically/explicitly desiring to impregnate me and doing it intentionally, not just accidentally impregnating me as an unintentional by-product or side-effect of sex.

At the primal level, I wish that he decides to impregnate me without me asking for it. Even if I have a wish for children, I never want to ask a man to give me children, rather I desire that the initiative comes from him, because then he is more likely to stay with me long-term.

Especially when I am in my fertile phase each month (when I am ovulating or close to it), my subconscious primal desire is that the chosen man/partner hold me tightly and try hard to impregnate me without asking me. This does not mean non-consensual sex, rather it means that the man takes the lead. He should exhibit sexual dominance in a mutually-satisfactory and consensual manner.

👽 Example scenario: Aliens force us to breed

This is a contrived scenario that is good for demonstrating the operation of female sexuality even though it would never happen in real life.

Imagine that a man and I are abducted by aliens. He and I do not know each other. The aliens have technology that is extremely advanced, and they view humans as little better than animals. The aliens lock the man and I in a habitat/enclosure at an intergalactic zoo.

The aliens require that we breed immediately. They inform us that if we do not breed with each other, then they will stop giving us food, and they will let us starve.

If I hated the man, or if I was repulsed by him, then obviously it would be very traumatic to be required to breed with him. However, in this scenario, the aliens have chosen a male human that is very desirable (both mentally and physically) according to my own individual preferences. Nevertheless, I am still angry at the aliens.

After two weeks in the zoo, I am sure that the man and I are both quite attracted to each other (mentally and physically), but it is outright impossible for me to love him after such a short time. Nevertheless, the aliens require that we begin the breeding, especially because they have detected that the fertile/ovulating phase of my menstrual cycle has started.

The man mounts me unromantically in doggy-style position and proceeds to try to impregnate me. He is very enthusiastic about it, because he finds me very attractive.

How would I react to this? Even though I do not love him, I would be excited, because I already know that he is a very desirable man in my own opinion. The primal part of my female brain is convinced that he is a high-quality man that would give my children good genes. Furthermore, I like his personality.

Consequently, this unromantic sex would be strongly arousing, pleasurable, and enjoyable for me. The sexual part of my brain does not care about the fact that we do not love each other. It is excited by what it interprets as an excellent opportunity to make a baby with a very good sire. This is how human female sexuality usually operates.

Writing this scenario has had the same effect on me as if I was fantasizing about it, because I had to imagine the scenario in detail. Consequently, the primal part of my brain is quite excited and aroused now. I can hardly concentrate anymore. All I can think about is how much I desire to be impregnated right now by a high-quality man regardless of whether we love each other or not.

The scenario has not triggered in me any lovey-dovey desire for sensual affectionate loving sex or romance, rather it has triggered a primal/animalistic urge to mate. This emotion/feeling is not a desire to be loved, rather it is a desire for a high-quality man to put a baby in my uterus. And then he should commit to me and our children.

My logical and rational mind certainly does not think it is a good idea to put a baby in me at the current time, but if it somehow happened anyway, if I go and have sex now, and if by magic it causes me to suddenly grow a little baby-bump in my belly, then I would be left grinning with delight and stroking my bulge affectionately.

This is typical female behavior at the fundamental/primal level. The details may vary between different women (and between women of different ages), but in principle, it is usually similar to what I described (although exceptions always exist).

👩🏻‍❤️‍💋‍👨🏻 An ideal dating procedure according to the female brain

The following describes my preferred concept of meeting a man in real life for the first time. It is not only my concept. My attitude here is very common among women.

The man does not love me, and he is not infatuated with me. He is very interested in me, and he is very curious about me, and he is keen to get to know me better. I am also very interested in him, because I like all the things that I know about him, and I enjoy talking with him.

Eventually we agree to meet at a café (or a safe public location where other people are present). We meet up at public locations multiple times. We both like each other’s personality and attitudes. I feel strongly attracted to him, and I am convinced that he feels strongly attracted to me.

Eventually we are both comfortable with each other, and we feel safe with each other. Neither of us love each other, rather we are both very keen on learning more about each other, and we hope that our dating will lead to a relationship.

He says in a totally relaxed, calm, and confident manner:

“I am beginning to get hungry. I will choose the food, and you can choose the location. I choose pizza. For the location, you can choose the Italian restaurant that we saw today, or you can choose my home, and I will make homemade pizza for us.”

I choose his home. I am ready for this step. We go to his home. His homemade pizza is excellent.

After the light dinner, we are sitting on his sofa. I am staring at him constantly, thinking about the mutual strong attraction that I feel between us. He knows what I am thinking at this moment, so he kisses me passionately.

I co-operate very eagerly and happily. He escalates it physically, and I continue to co-operate eagerly and happily. With movements not words, he escalates it again, and I continue to participate enthusiastically.

I do not make any kind of rejection either verbally or non-verbally. Anyone observing us would have no doubt that I consent enthusiastically. Nothing is preventing me from leaving. I am clearly staying by choice, and it is plain to see that I am greatly enjoying this activity with him. He says reassuringly:

“I don’t want to continue if you are the least bit uncomfortable. I won’t be offended or upset if you prefer to stop for now. It’s no problem at all.”

I confirm that I do not want to stop. He escalates repeatedly, and I participate eagerly with every escalation.

We reach the point where we are both naked. He fucks me with great enthusiasm and vigor. We do the man-on-top position, doggy-style position, and the woman-on-top position. We are very greedy for each other.

During and after the sex, neither of us loves the other. It would be weird and disturbing if either of us loved the other already, because love takes considerable time to develop.

Later that week, we decide to start a relationship (this happens after we had sex). We call ourselves a couple – boyfriend and girlfriend. Mutual true love gradually develops over the next few months. Our emotional pair-bond continues strengthening for a long time.

👉 In conclusion

In many cases, men need to slow down the romance and give women more time to develop romantic feelings for the man. However, if the man thinks that he must wait for her love before having sex with her, then he will be waiting forever.

Men need to understand that women do want a loving relationship, but showing love in the middle of sex is the wrong time to do it. Falling in love with a woman prior to having sex is also bad timing and mostly incompatible with the female brain in most cases.

Female sexuality is more strongly connected with baby-making than is male sexuality. In female sexuality, the “prime directive” is to mate with a high-quality man (or the best that is available to the woman).