How to persuade your wife to be a hotwife (cuckoldry)

And how to make it enticing for her, and what the upsides and downsides are.

How to persuade your wife to be a hotwife (cuckoldry)

I wrote this detailed article specially for the men that have a cuckoldry kink/fetish. These men (“cucks”) experience great pleasure and sexual arousal when they watch their own wife get fucked by a “bull” (a strong virile masculine man). The wife in this arrangement is called a “hotwife”.

These husbands encounter much difficulty and a high rate of failure when they attempt to engage in their cuckoldry fetish in real life, because women normally dislike it. When a husband reveals his cuckoldry fetish to his wife, there is a high risk of causing her to lose respect for him, depending on how he presents his proposal. Most women do not want to be a hotwife (the wife of a cuckold) at all.

A common mistake is to find and use a webpage that sounds professional. For example, a husband may attempt to use a webpage that says something like this:

“Cuckoldry is an arrangement that provides a means to empower a hotwife and celebrate her sexual freedom and attractiveness in the modern age. The cuckoldry dynamic emphasizes a modern woman’s autonomy, and it grants her the ability to explore her sexuality while reinforcing trust and commitment in the relationship with her husband. Ultimately, cuckoldry is about mutual empowerment. The husband finds satisfying fulfillment in his support of his wife’s sexual autonomy and freedom and the deepening of their intimacy and trust.”

Some men get sucked in by webpages that sound like the above, because of the professional appearance and tone. Using those webpages is a mistake, because most wives are more skeptical about this topic, and they quickly recognize the “professional” webpage for what it truly is: Marketing spin/PR/BS.

Women are rarely fooled by slick marketing-speak about cuckoldry. Most women realize that it is like listening to an advertisement or a speech from a salesman or a politician, and they know that they should not trust it (or at least they are not convinced by it).

In my article, I provide men with proper information about how to raise their chance of success when they attempt to persuade their wife to be a hotwife. To write this article, I thought long and hard about what would make me more likely to agree to be a hotwife (including what would increase my enjoyment of it). I also interrogated my friends about what could possibly persuade them to be hotwives. My article describes a whole bunch of things that make a cuckoldry deal more tempting and more enticing to women.

Ultimately, I would still not agree to be a hotwife (in my case), but occasionally a woman does agree to it, depending on her personality and options, especially if the terms of the arrangement are like what I describe in this article, and if she cannot find a better deal elsewhere.

I refuse to spew a bunch of pleasing lies/marketing about cuckoldry, therefore you will need to take the good with the bad. There is a whole bunch of stuff in this article that you will like, and then there is also the truth included (the bad news), therefore you will not enjoy fully 100% of this article.

This is how it should be, because you deserve to know the full story – both the upsides and the downsides, not only the upsides. In the end, you can make your own decision about whether to attempt cuckoldry in real life.

This article answers the following questions in detail:

Novelty has a strong effect

Most women are more excited by sex when novelty is involved. I find it exciting and thrilling to have sex with a new man for the first time with him. Therefore, I would find the cuckoldry arrangement more exciting and more enticing if the bull is a different man every time, and I have sex with each bull only once (or several times on the same day, but no second day).

My excitement and arousal would be much weaker if my husband arranges for me to get fucked by the same man many times over the course of a year. Reusing 2-3 bulls would also break the novelty.

The frequency of sex with bulls

If I was fucked by a bull once per week, then this is a high frequency that would ruin my excitement. I estimate that my excitement would be maximized if I was fucked by a bull once per three months. If my cuck-husband wanted it more often, I could agree to being fucked by a bull every second month.

If necessary, I suppose we could trial a frequency of once per month, but I believe that this would be counterproductive. If it happens too often, then it would become habitual and not an exciting novelty anymore. It is important and necessary to maximize the woman’s excitement and arousal as much as possible in order to counteract her dislike of her husband’s cuckoldry fetish.

Teaching the bull my preferences

Before the bull meets me, my cuck-husband would need to teach the bull my preferences and ensure that the bull remembers what I like and dislike. My husband should not only inform the bull but also give the bull a little test to check whether the bull actually remembers the information or not.

For example, in my particular case, activities that I dislike or hate include: Strangulation (“choking”), anal sex, fellatio, cunnilingus, intentional infliction of pain, sadism, enjoyment of violence, addiction to control, humiliation of me, degradation, etc. A husband should obtain this list from his wife.

Obviously, it is important for the husband to carefully screen bulls in order to identify problematic or dangerous men and eliminate them. The husband should develop a list of vetting questions to ask each bull. He should also discuss rules and boundaries with each bull.

The husband should politely ask each bull to provide the results of a test for sexually-transmitted infections prior to having sex with the hotwife. If a bull refuses to provide test results, or if he claims to have “forgotten” to do it or bring it, then the husband should assume that the bull is concealing the fact that he has an infection, and the planned sex should be cancelled or rescheduled.

A strict safeword is necessary

Importantly, my cuck-husband would need to carefully ensure that every new bull definitely and clearly understands (and does not forget) that the word “Stop” is a safeword, and that it is of utmost importance to strictly and always obey the safeword. My husband must ensure that each bull understands that if he ignores the safeword, then the sex would be non-consensual sex (rape).

When I am attracted to a man, if he behaves in a skillful and exciting manner, and if he does nothing evil or harmful (such as sadism or strangulation), then I am normally motivated to shut my mouth and not speak the safeword. Every couple practicing cuckoldry should have a safeword.

A surprise is more exciting

When my cuck-husband arranges for another bull to fuck me, he and the bull should choose a specific date and never tell me the date. It would be more exciting for me (and therefore more enticing) when I am taken by surprise. Everything that makes the cuckoldry arrangement more exciting and more enticing increases the chance of me agreeing to it (and continuing to agree and not divorce).

In addition to concealing the date, my husband should also conceal his choice of bull. This double surprise makes it even more exciting for me. Thus, he should not show me a photograph of the bull in advance. This means that he must learn my preferences very well, and he must skillfully choose bulls that I think are sexy, and he cannot check whether his choice of bull is correct, because showing me would ruin the surprise and reduce my excitement and enjoyment.

My husband should learn my preferences very well, but he cannot be expected to be 100% accurate when choosing bulls. To ensure that only consensual sex occurs, I must have the right to veto the choice of bull when I meet him on the day of the planned sex. Furthermore, the safeword (“Stop”) must be strictly respected.

To learn my preferences, my husband should ask me a bunch of questions about which type of bull is the sexiest in my opinion. He should ask about physique, muscles, height, weight, fitness, ethnicity, clothing, etc. He should also ask whether I prefer a sophisticated type of bull (like James Bond), or a gangster, Mafia boss, thug, brute, etc.

My husband should practice by choosing a number of bulls that will only be used for practice and not actual sex. Multiple times, he should show me the photograph and dating profile of a bull that he chose for practice, and then I can tell him whether he chose correctly. In this manner, he receives feedback and he can learn from his mistakes and become adept at choosing bulls. This would greatly reduce the chance of me vetoing a bull on the planned day of sex.

How the bull should behave when he meets me

For my first encounter with the bull, he should approach me somewhere and tell me how sexy I am. He should push me against a wall so that my back is against the wall and the front of his body is firmly pressed against the front of my body.

He should take me to his room in a hotel. While we are walking or driving to the hotel, he should have a dirty/erotic conversation with me. This will increase my sexual arousal and prepare me for sex. He should not mention that my husband contacted him and arranged this sexual encounter. The bull should act as if it is all his own idea.

I would presume that my cuck of a husband arranged the encounter with the bull. I would not ask for confirmation. I would be excited by not having confirmation. There would be a small possibility that the sexual encounter was not arranged by my husband. The fact that I could possibly be cheating on my husband (accidentally) would increase my excitement.

No dinner dates with bulls

Some people think that the hotwife and the bull should have a dinner date in order to get to know each other and get comfortable before having sex. This is a bad idea.

It makes no sense to engage in a dating activity with a bull. Dating is for finding a relationship partner, but the hotwife already has a partner. The goal is sex with the bull, not the creation of a new relationship. If the hotwife has a dinner date with a bull, then it would be like she is seeking to replace her husband.

During a dinner date with a bull, a hotwife would most likely discover at least one desirable thing or advantage that the bull has that her husband does not have. Each time she has a dinner date with a new bull, she would hear about another advantageous thing that her husband does not have. It would be like an ongoing reminder of all the beneficial things that her husband could have but does not have. Dinner dates with bulls would eventually contribute to destruction of the relationship between the hotwife and her husband.

Furthermore, a dinner date with a bull would cause the hotwife to think much more critically about the bull, just like she would when going on a dinner date when single and looking for a partner. After a real dinner date, women most commonly decide that they do not like the man. For example, a typical woman could have 20 dates with 20 different men, and she likes only one of those men. Therefore, a dinner date with any bull would usually lead to the hotwife deciding that she does not like him.

During the dinner date, there would be many opportunities to discover something off-putting about the bull. For example, if a handsome bull says that he is unemployed or a teacher in a primary school, then this would ruin her perception of him as a bull, and it would stop her arousal. Alternatively, she might notice that he is lying in an attempt to impress her. There are hundreds of ways of finding something off-putting about somebody during a dinner date.

Instead of a dinner date, the interaction with the bull should focus on the physical sexual aspects without involving the emotional/mental aspects. It is not relevant whether the bull and the hotwife have compatible personalities for a friendship or relationship. They should not share information about their lives. For example, showing each other photographs of their children or partners would ruin the sexual tension and arousal.

While the hotwife and the bull are walking or driving to the hotel, he should have a dirty/erotic conversation with her. The duration of the sex-talk should be 15-30 minutes in order to give her sufficient time to become fully aroused. This is important because women become aroused slower than men on average.

The erotic conversation should begin before entering the hotel room, because it helps to convince her that she wants to go to his room to have sex. The dirty talk should continue in the hotel room and while undressing.

The husband should hide himself

When the bull leads me inside his hotel room, my husband should not be visible in the room. If I see my husband, then it would ruin the excitement that I receive from not knowing for sure whether he arranged this sexual encounter, and whether I am cheating on him.

Furthermore, I would find it highly repulsive and disturbing if my husband is sitting on a chair in the room with the bed and watching me get fucked by a bull. I would find it even more repulsive and disturbing if he is masturbating while watching. I would lose all respect for him.

In addition, if he is so obviously watching and masturbating, then I would feel like a prostitute, because I would be having sex for the benefit of my husband like how a prostitute has sex for the benefit of a client. This would destroy my ability to enjoy the sex.

Ideally, my husband should be in a different room where he can watch a live video feed of the sex using hidden video cameras that he installed in advance. Alternatively, if he insists on being in the same room, then perhaps he could observe through a spyhole, and he could be hidden inside a compartment.

It would be better if my husband is in a different room, because I would find it very repulsive and embarrassing to see or hear my husband masturbating while he watches a man fuck me. My ideal type of husband is always a possessive and jealous man that would definitely stop any other man from having sex with me.

If my cuck-husband dislikes the requirement to hide himself, then he should take into account the fact that I strongly dislike the entire cuckoldry arrangement, thus compromises are necessary and unavoidable for both of us. In my case, I would be compromising more than him.

The husband should hide his masochism

A man with a cuckoldry fetish feels masochistic pleasure (pleasure derived from his own suffering), and this motivates him to make himself a victim of cuckoldry. The more his wife observes instances of his masochism, the faster she loses respect for him. Therefore, in order to retain respect, he should hide his masochism or at least make it not so obvious.

For example, consider a scenario where the hotwife is encouraged to say to the bull:

“Your cock is so much bigger and better than my husband’s! His cock is like an ant in comparison to yours.”

When the cuck-husband hears this insult, it may generate masochistic pleasure in his brain, but he should try to minimize the frequency of this, because it will accelerate his wife’s loss of respect for him. It would be better if he engages in silent forms of masochism that are not so obvious.

Likewise, when the husband watches from a hidden location, the hotwife can try to forget about her husband and his masochism, whereas if he is sitting on a chair in the same room and masturbating while watching, then his masochism is made obvious to her, and her respect for him diminishes rapidly and severely.

What happens after the bull finishes fucking the hotwife?

My cuck-husband should have sex with me immediately after the bull in order to show me that he is still attracted to me and desirous of me. My husband and I could use any sexual position. Man-on-top, woman-on-top, or doggy-style position would all be acceptable at this time.

The worst case would be if my husband masturbates and orgasms while watching the bull fuck me, and then my husband does not have sex with me, because he already climaxed. This would definitely make the arrangement worse for me, and it would lead to destruction of the relationship.

If my husband does not have sex with me, then he could simply watch a pornographic video depicting a cuckoldry scenario. There would be no justification for doing it in real life. Furthermore, a pornographic video is much safer than taking the risk in real life (the risk of destroying the relationship between the husband and wife).

A husband should never expect or tell his hotwife to be thankful to him for arranging the sexual encounter with the bull. This behavior would cause the hotwife to feel resentful, because in most cases, she only has sex with bulls because her husband wants it. She does it to please him more than herself. It would be more reasonable to expect a wife to be thankful if she does NOT need to have sex with any bulls.

How the hotwife should get her orgasm

Like the majority of women, I would not orgasm while the bull is fucking me. I never orgasm during the man-on-top position or doggy-style position even when I experience the sex as intensely pleasurable and enjoyable.

After the bull finishes fucking me, I should ride my husband and bring myself to my climax on top of him. This would only happen if I have developed a desire to do the woman-on-top position. If the bull does a very good job of fucking me, then I am more likely to develop a desire to do the woman-on-top position.

I should not ride the bull and get my climax on top of him, because this activity would strengthen my attraction to bulls and weaken my attraction to my husband, and this would increase the risk of the destruction of my relationship with my husband. However, in the heat of the moment, it is quite possible that I become overwhelmed by an urge to ride the bull, and then I do ride him regardless of the fact that I should not.

If I do not develop a desire for the woman-on-top position, then I would masturbate in order to trigger my orgasm after my husband fucks me after the bull fucks me.

In my case, I dislike cunnilingus, but many women like cunnilingus. For a hotwife that likes cunnilingus, the husband could give his wife cunnilingus after the bull finishes. If the bull used no condom, then the husband would be further humiliated by giving his wife cunnilingus while the bull’s semen is leaking out of her. This humiliation could potentially give him masochistic pleasure. It would also accelerate his wife’s loss of respect for him and increase the chance of a divorce.

Do it during her fertile phase

During the fertile phase of my menstrual cycle (when I am ovulating or close to it), I am often in a wild mood or even a feral mood. Health & fitness are important in my opinion, and my excellent health & fitness increase my libido even further when I am fertile. One time when I was in my fertile phase, I said to my boyfriend angrily:

“If you don’t fuck me right now, I swear, I will march right over to our neighbor and order him to fuck me!!”

My boyfriend promptly changed his plans and agreed to fuck me. I said that he was too late. I began leaving the house to go and visit the neighbor. I forced my boyfriend to tackle me and wrestle with me and overpower me and forcefully penetrate me to claim me and stop me from going to get fucked by the neighbor. It was great fun. 😈

It was a game of course. In truth, I would not have really visited the neighbor (except perhaps if the neighbor was quite attractive and my boyfriend had not fucked me at all for a very long time and I could not tolerate it any longer).

During my fertile days, there have also been times when I threatened to go and get fucked by a particular actor or even a fictional character in a movie. If I recall correctly, one time I even threatened to go and get my oldest brother to fuck me. It was a complete-and-utter lie of course.

If I had a cuck of a husband, then he could track my menstrual cycle and calculate when I am most likely fertile, and he could arrange for the bull to fuck me on the day of my peak fertility. This would increase my enjoyment of the sex with the bull. My cuck-husband would have a higher chance of persuading me to get fucked by a bull if it occurs during my fertile phase.

For some percentage of women, the fertile phase causes not only increased libido, but also a feral/wild mood. If a hotwife views bull-fucking as a feral thing to do, then she is more likely to agree to it when she is in a feral mood.

If a hotwife belongs to the percentage of women that inherited dual-mating behavior, then it is not only beneficial to perform the cuckoldry during her fertile phase, rather it is a requirement. A dual-mating woman only feels properly attracted to bulls during her fertile phase. Outside of her fertile phase, she likes beta males better than bulls, therefore it would be unwise to pressure her to have sex with a bull on any day outside of her fertile phase.

Satisfying a hunger for sex

The duration of time that a woman can go without sex varies drastically between different women. Some women can go years without having sex, and their celibacy does not bother them. Other women become sexually frustrated after a few months and extremely frustrated after six months (for example).

I belong to the category of women that become increasingly frustrated and grumpy after a certain duration of time without sex. However, this has rarely occurred in my life so far, because most men develop sexual frustration much faster than most women.

After having no sex for a long time, when I finally get the feeling of a hard penis in my vagina after a long frustrating delay, it feels highly gratifying and extra pleasurable.

If I had a cuck-husband, and if he deliberately had no sex with me and waited until I became sexually frustrated, then he would have a higher chance of persuading me to get fucked by a bull, because I would feel motivated to eliminate my sexual frustration. However, depending on how he does this, I might end up feeling resentful eventually, especially if he was deliberately manipulating me.

Describe the pleasurable advantages of the bull

A man will have a greater chance of convincing his wife to be a hotwife if he explicitly describes (in detail) the differences and the pleasurable advantages of having sex with a bull in comparison to himself.

The husband might enjoy gentle sensual “cuddle-sex” very much, but cuddle-sex is unpopular among most women. Commonly, a man with a cuckoldry fetish does not enjoy the degree of roughness/hardness that his wife enjoys (or secretly enjoys or wishes for), therefore he may seek to deliver the missing activity via bulls.

The husband should make an effort to discover which style of sex his wife truly enjoys the most. He should ask her, but he should also keep in mind that many women do not accurately answer this question. For example, she may be too shy or too embarrassed to say that she would like to try “rough sex”. Alternatively, she might not know her favorite sexual style if she is inexperienced.

The most common situation is that the husband should offer his wife a bull that will perform hard thrusting, deep penetration, and “rough sex”, but not excessively rough. There should be no injuries and no pain – other than potentially the soreness after having had a lot of hot sex. 🤣

Rough sex should strictly exclude strangulation (AKA “choking”) and asphyxiation, because these activities cause an accumulation of brain damage over time.

I enjoy some “rough sex”, but there are definite limits to what I enjoy. Like most women, I certainly do not enjoy every type of rough sex. I hate it if the man is motivated by sadism, enjoyment of violence, or an addiction to control. Like the majority of women, I only like it when the man is motivated by strong desire for me and/or possessiveness.

It is important to keep in mind that the definition of “rough sex” varies between different people, therefore it is necessary to discuss the details and specific examples. If a man asks, “Do you like rough sex?”, and the woman answers, “Yes”, then she could be saying yes to something different than what the man thinks.

Full cuckoldry produces much stronger temptation & enjoyment

Many women wish to have good-looking and intelligent children. To achieve this goal (or to maximize the probability of it), these women need to be impregnated by a handsome and intelligent man. This applies regardless of the appearance of the woman:

Most women consciously or subconsciously desire to get impregnated by a high-quality man, but there is a major shortage of high-quality men. It is impossible for all women to be satisfied if the society operates with strict monogamy and 1:1 pairing between men and women. Many women are forced to compromise and accept a man of a lesser genetic quality than they wished for.

A man with a cuckoldry fetish could potentially convince his wife to be a hotwife by offering her the good-looking and intelligent children that she dreams of having. This is most likely the strongest method of persuading her. For example, he could say to her:

“I’m going to arrange for a handsome and intelligent bull to impregnate you and give us a good-looking and smart kid.”

She might reply:

“What?! Don’t you want to be the biological father??”

Then he might reply with something like this:

“Look at me, I’m not good-looking at all, and I’m not very smart either. Do you really want our children to look like me? You deserve better. You deserve to have a handsome and intelligent man be the biological father of your children, and I will support you, and I will raise the children as my own.”

He would inform his wife that he will officially record himself as the legal father on the birth certificate, and that he intends to raise the child as his own (just like the dictionary definition of the word “cuckold”).

I am not recommending it! I am merely describing what possible forces can potentially tempt, entice, and finally convince a woman to participate in her husband’s cuckoldry fetish – a difficult task, considering that women usually have no respect for this fetish.

Normally, a woman wishes to have a desirable partner impregnate her and make a family together. She does not want cuckoldry. However, if she is unable to get her ideal partner, and if she has abandoned hope of ever getting him, and especially if she is running out of time to have children before becoming too old, then she might be willing to compromise and agree to the unusual cuckoldry arrangement with impregnation by a handsome and intelligent bull.

It is important to understand that the husband will lose a lot of respect if he formulates the proposal as a question instead of a statement. Therefore, he should never say:

“Would you like it if a handsome and intelligent bull impregnated you? I could go along with this, if you want, because I love you.”

To avoid/minimize loss of respect, he should formulate it as a statement beginning with “I will” or similar, not a question or suggestion. This does not mean that he would force her against her will. It simply means that he states his intention or plan, and then she has the option of stating her objections to his plan. If she rejects his plan, he can modify his plan to try to make it more appealing to her. If she still rejects it, he should not force her.

When he says it as a statement (“I will get a great bull to impregnate you”), it is more attractive, because it is a display of leadership and/or dominance. Although it is a dysfunctional display, it is still better than nothing. Formulating it as a question or suggestion does not demonstrate leadership or dominance.

Alternatively, the husband could reveal his cuckoldry fetish without saying anything about pregnancy, but this would lower the chance of success in most cases. His chance of success is higher if he makes his wife horny by talking about impregnating her or “breeding” her with a top-notch bull or stud. If she enjoys dirty talk, she would be more strongly aroused if he talks dirty using the word “breed”.

“Our child/children will be handsome and intelligent, because I will carefully select a very masculine, handsome, intelligent, strong, and healthy stud, and I will breed you with him. You will also enjoy the sex a lot, because I know how much pleasure women get when they have sex with a strong masculine man – a real bull of a man. You’re going to love it!”

The wife is more likely to accept the deal if she can keep the paternity of her children private. If the skin color of her child makes it obvious that her husband is not the biological father, then she would most likely be embarrassed in front of other people (or at least bothered by the lack of privacy). It would be wise to avoid creating any embarrassment for her, therefore the chosen bull should have an appearance that will not make it obvious that the husband is not the biological father.

Plan ahead for a possible second or third child. At least in my case, I would dislike having multiple different fathers of my children. I would want all of my children to be full siblings and not half-siblings. If they are half-siblings, it is possible that someone might remark that they do not look like brothers or sisters (even if they are all in the same ethnic group).

Some other women might not require the same father for all of their children. To be safe, your first suggestion should be the same bull for all of the children, and then if she says that she is not bothered by having a different father for each child, then you could accept this.

You might be able to sweeten the deal if you can find a bull/stud that is willing to commit to making financial contributions to enhance the life of the child. He does not necessarily have to be wealthy. He could have a job that pays a higher salary, enough so that he can comfortably agree to contribute an agreed monthly sum of money to enhance the life of the child.

Alternatively, if he is unwilling to give the money to the husband and wife, then he might be willing to pay it into a trust fund that the child can access on his/her 18th birthday.

Sex for mating versus sex for pleasure

In the female brain, sex for mating and sex for pleasure are two different activities. Closely related but not the same. I enter a “primal mating mode” when a man tries to mate with me under the following circumstances:

When all of the above conditions are fulfilled, if the man says to me with a lustful voice, “I want to impregnate you”, my crotch explodes with arousal and lust. I can hardly control it. My clitoris and labia start swelling up, and my vagina becomes very wet, and my nipples stiffen and become pointy, and soon thereafter my vagina begins to feel something similar to hunger pains, and I feel a powerful urge/need/desire to co-operate with his attempt to impregnate me even if he and I are not in a relationship, and even if I do not love him.

With very hot guys, I have also experienced a wobbly weakness in my knees as if the hot guy is almost causing me to collapse to my knees, bend forward, put my hands on the floor, and wait for him to penetrate me. Only a tiny percentage of men have this effect on me, but when they do, wow, it sure is a powerful thing.

The thing that triggers me in this situation is the man’s high degree of suitability/desirability for mating, not love from either him or me. In this situation, I just want to stop moving, become passive, make no resistance, wait for him to penetrate me, receive him, and stay in position until he climaxes and inseminates me.

When this happens, when it is real and primal, I turn into a “good girl” for the duration of the sexual activity. The man should never call me a “good girl” (this condescension would make me angry), rather he should continue to demonstrate respect for me, and he should simply give me the freedom to make my own choice to willingly behave as a highly co-operative and receptive female during the mating.

When I am in “primal mating mode”, foreplay can be skipped. There is no requirement for him to give me pleasure or an orgasm during mating. My goal is to receive his semen. This is not sex for fun or pleasure. Mating with a high-quality man feels strongly rewarding for me in a different manner than when I receive pleasurable stimulation during sex for fun.

For example, one time I was in doggy-style position with a desirable man, and objectively the sex was poor quality, because the foreplay was minimal and brief, and the actual sex lasted only a few minutes. He was so strongly aroused that he failed to control his orgasm.

After ejaculating, he expressed disappointment in himself, because he wanted to enjoy sex with me for a good length of time, but he had unwillingly ejaculated after what seemed like approximately three minutes of thrusting. He even apologized to me for performing hardly any foreplay before penetrating me, and for his failure to make the sex good for me. With confusion and disappointment, he said:

“I don’t know what came over me. Sorry about that.”

And then he suddenly had a minor bout of anxiety or panic. He said:

“You did say yes, didn’t you? I didn’t do anything wrong, did I?”

I confirmed that I was definitely in agreement with the sex, and that he had nothing to worry about. He calmed down. I assured him that I had enjoyed the sex very much. He was confused. He could not understand how I could possibly enjoy only three minutes of thrusting with nothing else and no orgasm for me. He thought I was just saying it to be nice to him. He promised to do better next time.

He did not understand that he had unconsciously gone into “primal mating mode”. Regardless of his lack of awareness of what he was doing, I enjoyed his primal attempt to mate with me. If he had been consciously aware of it, then I might not have enjoyed it, because his conscious thoughts could potentially be disruptive and cause him to exit the primal mating mode or make it not genuine anymore.

In addition to enjoying the mating mode, I enjoyed his loss of self-control, because it made me feel highly desirable and powerful in this manner.

I can also enter primal mating mode when I am lying on my back on a bed. If this happened with a sexy bull, my cuck-husband would see me behaving as follows. When I am having sex for fun, I tend to demand longer foreplay, and sometimes I play-wrestle. In contrast, when I am in primal mating mode, I angle my body to directly point my vulva at the man, and I spread my legs wide open, and I use my hands to spread apart my labia near my vaginal entrance, making myself highly inviting for the man. Then I stare at him intently while waiting for him to penetrate me.

I have had sex in this primal manner multiple times, and it feels highly rewarding. I am very thankful for the existence of reliable non-hormonal contraception (copper IUDs), because if it did not exist, then I would end up having 10+ children in my lifetime – far too many!

Ideally, I do not want to have any children with a man that I do not love. The best arrangement is a family with a husband and wife that love each other. However, there is a difference between what my high-level conscious mind thinks versus what the primal part of my brain thinks. The primal part is willing to get me pregnant with an exceptionally high-quality man regardless of whether he loves me or I love him, and regardless of whether we are in a relationship.

It feels like my brain decides that in some cases (exceptional cases), the man’s offer is far too good to refuse, and I simply must co-operate with his attempt to mate with me. And then if I do co-operate with the attempted mating, then my brain rewards me with overwhelmingly strong enjoyment.

A woman may be much more willing to be a hotwife if the sex with the bull is “sex for mating” rather than “sex for pleasure”. On one hand, I do not want to have a husband with a cuckoldry fetish, but on the other hand, if I did have a cuck-husband, theoretically it would be possible for me to enjoy him “breeding” me with studs if the studs are very high-quality according to my own opinion (studs that would give me good-looking and intelligent children).

Less attractive women are more likely to agree to being hotwives

In my case, if I had a partner that wanted to be a cuckold, then my best option would be to switch to a new partner. I could find a new partner without excessive difficulty.

Some other women have fewer options available to them, and they might never experience the pleasure of bull-like sex and beautiful children if they insist on strict monogamy. Those women are more likely to agree to a compromise with their husband instead of losing weight, getting fit, etc.

However, if a “hotwife” is not hot (for example, if she is obese), then it would be more difficult to find bulls that want to fuck her. Therefore, a hotwife would need to be attractive enough to attract bulls, but not attractive enough to get a monogamous relationship with a high-quality man.

A wealthy cuckold

Women subconsciously calculate an overall score for a man according to each woman’s individual preferences and priorities. If he is deficient in one area, he can regain the lost points by excelling in a different area.

For example, it is true that most women dislike a bald head, but a woman will still choose a bald man if his overall score pleases her, especially if his overall score is higher than the other men available to her. It is certainly possible for a bald man to have a higher overall score than a man with excellent hair.

Likewise, when a man enjoys being a cuckhold, his score decreases in the opinion of most women, but this loss of points can be compensated by other advantages such as wealth. A very wealthy man has a higher chance of convincing his wife to tolerate or accept his cuckoldry fetish, especially if she is a gold-digger (a woman that wants money more than anything else).

If the hotwife of a wealthy cuckold is a gold-digger, then he should not expect his hotwife to love him (or not much). It is unlikely that a gold-digger would love him. At most, she might appreciate him or his support of her and her children. However, a woman can also enjoy wealth without being a gold-digger, and in this case, she is capable of love.

A cheating hotwife (an alternative solution)

Most women do not want to cheat on their husband, but if they were required to choose between supporting their husband’s cuckoldry fetish or cheating on him, then they would prefer to cheat. If I had no ethics, no empathy, and no guilty emotions, then I would think that it is exciting and fun to cheat on a partner. It would be thrilling to almost get caught and then to get away with it.

The truth is, many women think that it would be exciting and arousing to cheat on their partner, but they do not want to ruin their relationship, and they do not want to suffer the guilt. A sensible woman also realizes that if she cheats, then it is fair if her husband cheats as well, but she does not want this result. There is a very expensive price to pay for the thrill of cheating, and sensible people decide that it is not worth it.

If a husband gives his wife permission to be a cheating hotwife, then she would usually view this better (less badly) than if he described it as his wish to be a victim of cuckoldry.

Every few months, she could find a bull to cheat with, and she could make a video recording of her getting fucked by the bull. Then she could give the video recording to her husband for him to enjoy watching. A wife is more likely to accept this arrangement than a more direct form of participating in her husband’s cuckoldry fetish.

Although this arrangement might not be the husband’s ideal fantasy of cuckoldry, it is unlikely that he will ever get the perfect version of his fantasy without destroying his marriage, therefore he should consider a compromise, because a compromise is better than a divorce. A compromise is also better than getting nothing at all.

A masochistic hotwife (an alternative solution)

Some women have a masochistic personality disorder. A masochistic woman would be more likely to agree to her husband’s cuckoldry proposal if he arranges it in a manner that appeals to her masochism. For example, consider the following theoretical scenario or roleplay:

The husband takes his hotwife to a forest or a field or some other remote location. He hammers four metal stakes into the ground. Then he undresses his hotwife, and he puts her on her hands and knees on the ground near the stakes. He uses four pieces of rope to tie her wrists and ankles to the four stakes in the ground. This bondage prevents her from standing up and leaving.

Possibly he also puts a blindfold on her. Then he leaves her there, bound to the four stakes in the forest. He walks some distance away, and he hides and watches. Prior to this, he chose a number of bulls, and he arranged for them to encounter his wife in the forest. One by one, a bull walks to the hotwife and sees how sexy and helpless she is.

The bull cannot resist the temptation to take advantage of the situation. He takes off his pants and underpants, and he kneels behind her, and he mounts her in doggy-style position. She cannot stop him, because her wrists and ankles are bound to the stakes. After he finishes enjoying her, he leaves, and soon the next bull arrives, and the same thing happens again.

The husband remains in hiding, and he watches the bulls fuck his hotwife one-by-one. After all the bulls are finished and gone, the husband is the last man to fuck the hotwife. Alternatively, he might randomly insert himself into the sequence before the last bull so that his blindfolded hotwife does not know whether she is being fucked by a bull or her husband.

She would get stronger pleasure if it is performed when she is fertile and not using contraception, if all of the bulls are handsome and intelligent so that she will have a high-quality baby regardless of which one of the bulls impregnates her.

In my case, I would never agree to do the above. It is a scenario for a masochistic woman. A non-masochistic woman would not like it, except perhaps if the bulls are chosen in advance by herself, and if everything runs exactly according to her wishes and her plan.

I recommend that a woman with a masochistic personality disorder visit a psychologist and seek therapy. I do not recommend that she engage in sexual activities that strengthen her masochism. However, at the end of the day, the final decision about her own life is hers to make.

A sadistic hotwife (an alternative solution)

If a man finds a sadistic woman to marry, or if he discovers that his wife has a sadistic streak, then it should be fairly easy to convince her to be a hotwife, because a sadistic wife would enjoy humiliating her husband by engaging in cuckoldry.

A sadistic wife would have an interest in BDSM (not only bondage, but actual BDSM), specifically the sadistic and masochistic parts of BDSM. She would most likely enjoy the idea of putting her husband in bondage and forcing him to watch her have hot sex with another man.

She would like the idea of binding her husband to a frame that prevents him from turning his body or head in order to look away. She would also want to put a gag on him to stop him from saying anything disruptive or distracting while she is having sex with the other man.

If her husband appears to be enjoying the show (as a result of his masochism), then she might decide to blindfold him so that he can only hear the sex and not see it anymore.

In this scenario, the hotwife is running the show, and she is in control. She is dominant. However, the majority of women that like BDSM want to be submissive. To make the scenario more appealing to women that want to be submissive, the hotwife could be submissive with the bull and dominant with her husband.

A sadistic hotwife is capable of enjoying the humiliation and degradation of her husband. In theory, she could maximize his humiliation by deliberately getting herself impregnated by a bull without even knowing which of the bulls is the father. Then she would require that her husband support her and her children. Because of her sadism, she might deliberately arrange for her baby to have a different skin color than her husband in order to increase his humiliation even further.

I recommend that a woman with a sadistic personality disorder visit a psychologist and seek therapy. I do not recommend that she engage in sexual activities that strengthen her sadism. Sadism is harmful by definition.

Do not be blinded by sexual excitement

A couple could get caught up in the sexual excitement while discussing plans for cuckoldry. The wife’s excitement could make the husband enthusiastic and eager to start searching for the first bull. It is important to realize that the cuckoldry arrangement could still be a big failure even if the wife is sexually excited and arousal by the plan.

For example, a wife could be excited about getting fucked by a bull, and she participates three times, and she enjoys it, but then she divorces her cuck-husband, because she has no respect for him anymore. Therefore, a successful plan requires more than only the wife’s excitement.

In my case, I would never agree to a cuckoldry arrangement in reality, but I can understand that some women agree to it. It is not without advantages for the hotwife. It is conceivable that some women view the advantages as outweighing the disadvantages. A risk is that a woman changes her mind after doing it for some time as a result of the cuckoldry activity causing a decrease in the degree of love and respect that she has for her masochistic husband.

This article is NOT a recommendation for cuckoldry

Please note that this article does not recommend that anybody engage in cuckoldry-like behavior or actual cuckoldry. This article is not intended to be an encouragement, endorsement, or recommendation of any behavior.

Note that in many or most cases, a relationship with cuckoldry ends in divorce/separation.

Please think very carefully before making your decision. Consider the risks. Make a realistic estimation of your chance of success and decide whether you are willing to take the risk. Consider the risk versus reward and decide whether it is worth it or not.

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