Not orgasming is the best 💖
I am glad that no man ever brings me to orgasm during sex.
A lot of women are concerned about their lack of orgasms during sex. Why should this be a problem?
Even if the sex is extraordinarily good, I never orgasm when the man is in the active role doing the man-on-top position or doggy-style position or any position with me in the passive/receptive role. I am not the least bit bothered by this. No disappointment at all.
The only sexual position that brings me to orgasm is the woman-on-top position. Alternatively, I can use my fingers to stimulate my clitoris and get my orgasm after the man finishes getting his orgasm. I am very happy with this arrangement.
In fact, I dislike the idea of a man having an ability to cause me to orgasm. I am glad that no man can do it. I like having the control over my orgasm, and I want to keep it this way.
Two different types of orgasm
My biggest and best type of orgasm occurs when I get my own orgasm by riding the man energetically (with me in the active role and him in the passive role). It feels like a blended vaginal + clitoral orgasm.
My second-best type of orgasm occurs when I use my fingers to stimulate my clitoris indirectly (nearby). This causes a clitoral orgasm. I orgasm faster if the man plays with my nipples while I move my fingers near my clitoris.
I know that a few male researchers/scientists claim that only one type of female orgasm exists, but they are beyond all doubt wrong, wrong, wrong. I definitely have two different types of orgasm.
I have also discussed this topic with other women. It is a proven fact: Women (or at least many women) have more than one type of orgasm. We can feel the difference. A male scientist must be extremely arrogant and sexist if he insists that he knows better than women about women’s orgasms.
Some women might even be capable of three different types of orgasm. In my case, there are two types.
Some women orgasm during the man-on-top position, but not me. Never.
Was the sex not good enough to orgasm?
Oh, the sex is good enough. It is more than good enough. It is freaking fantastic!
Let me give you one example. I had met a hot new guy. Finally, we had the opportunity to take it further. The intense way that he stared at me felt like a beam of heat directed at me. Under his gaze, I felt my entire body heating up.
I could feel how strongly he yearned for me, and I could distinctly hear it in his voice when he said, “I want you so damn much.”
He pushed his body against mine and began kissing me passionately. Not only my lips, but my neck as well. I felt his stubble on my neck. He kissed me so passionately that it seemed like what he actually wanted to do was to lick the sweat off my skin and savor my flavor and my natural feminine scent.
He was quickly overwhelmed with wild lust for me. I had never before felt so strongly wanted in my entire life. Wanted by such a sexy man. His lust for me was massive. He fucked me with great enthusiasm, energy, and vigor.
He was gripping my body and thrusting so hard and deep that I felt like he wished that he could bring his entire body inside mine. It was wild and primal. I had caused him to completely lose control of himself. His strong movements unleashed waves of pleasure in me.
He moved like he was addicted to me and desperately wanting more, more, and more of me. Even when his body was coated in sweat and on the verge of collapsing from exhaustion, he was still trying to get even more of me. I felt like I was a powerful and sexy goddess.
So much bliss. ❤❤❤❤❤
After he climaxed and finished, I said breathlessly, “That was amazing!”
He replied, “For me too. I swear, I will never have sex with any other woman for the rest of my life!”
I said with a huge smile, “But we’ve only done it once with each other.”
He replied, “I’m already completely and utterly convinced.”
He had orgasmed, but I had not. I felt a very strong desire to get my orgasm. I said, “I want to ride you.”
He was lying face-up on the bed. I climbed on top of him. I straddled him over his thighs, just below his crotch. I was getting ready to ride him. He let his gaze run up and down my body. He looked at my hips, my waist, my breasts, and my face.
I could hear his admiration of me in his voice. He said, “You’re an incredibly sexy woman.”
He was already hard again. I put him inside me and rode him really hard and fast for my own pleasure. I reached my climax on top of him, and it was a super-good orgasm. Max pleasure, max enjoyment, max satisfaction.
I would not want to change that experience in any way. It was perfect.
I have experienced this kind of top-notch sex on multiple occasions. No man ever triggers my orgasm regardless of how fantastic the sex is. This is good. I like how I am. If I could somehow magically change how my orgasm functions, I would choose not to change it at all.
My standard procedure
The man initiates foreplay.
We have sex in the man-on-top position.
If he does a good job of it, I feel very good pleasure, and I enjoy it very much.
After he climaxes and finishes, I usually feel a desire to get my orgasm.
Sometimes I proceed to do the woman-on-top position to bring myself to orgasm by riding the man energetically.
Sometimes I prefer the lazier method of using my fingers to give myself a clitoral orgasm.
Sometimes I am already satisfied after the man’s climax, and I do not desire or need an orgasm for myself.
Doggy-style position operates somewhat differently. Regardless of how much I enjoy it, doggy-style position does not activate my desire to do the woman-on-top position after the man finishes. Sometimes I use my fingers after doggy-style position, and sometimes I am already satisfied and do not need anything more.
In the man-on-top position, every time the man thrusts, his crotch bumps against my outer vulva and stimulates my clitoris to some degree. This clitoral stimulation does not occur in doggy-style position. Therefore, theoretically I should enjoy doggy-style less than man-on-top, but somehow I do not. I enjoy both of these positions very much.
Multiple orgasms
When I use my fingers to trigger my clitoral orgasm, sometimes it is not enough, and I desire another orgasm. Sometimes I use my fingers to give myself three clitoral orgasms in a row. It depends on how much the man aroused me prior to his climax, and it depends on how good the sex was.
When I get my orgasm via the woman-on-top position, I have only one big orgasm, and then I am satisfied and happy.
I can also enjoy sex without my orgasm
Obviously the best sex is when I feel the desire to get my orgasm after the man finishes, and then I proceed to get my orgasm. However, I am also capable of enjoying sex very much without my orgasm (without feeling a desire for my orgasm), provided I get my orgasm on other days.
Occasionally a man will do a selfish kind of doggy-style position for his own pleasure without consideration for my enjoyment. I enjoy it anyway, provided I like the man a lot, and provided his technique is good. Obviously I would not enjoy it if he was always selfish, but doing it occasionally is no problem for me.
My point is, I do not need to have my orgasm every time. Sometimes I greatly enjoy being taken in doggy-style position even if I do not develop any desire for my orgasm on that day. It just feels really good to have him thrusting into me and reaching his climax with me, provided he uses a good technique, and provided he and I have a strong mutual attraction.
Disappointing sex
I would be very disappointed and dissatisfied with a man if the sex with him never or rarely causes me to develop my desire to get my own orgasm. That would be poor-quality sex. The cause could be any of the following:
I am insufficiently attracted to the man.
The man is insufficiently attracted to me.
A man with weak or insufficient desire for me.
A man with a weak sex-drive / libido.
A man that uses the wrong technique.
A man that does not know what I like.
A man that knows what I like, but he dislikes doing it.
Sexual disruption caused by hormonal contraception or an SSRI or certain other medications.
Partial protection against rape
If a man was able to force me to orgasm against my will, then rape would become even more traumatic. I would never want to feel any pleasure during a rape, especially not the intense pleasure of an orgasm. Unwanted forced pleasure and orgasm would be highly disturbing/traumatizing.
I believe that my ancestors evolved to have a partial protection against rape, and this is the reason why I never orgasm when a man has sex with me. In my case, I cannot be forced to orgasm against my will. This reduces the probability of being impregnated by a rapist.
So, I am glad that no man can make me orgasm with or without my consent. I like having the control over my orgasm. It is truly a good thing to never orgasm during the man-on-top and doggy-style positions.
Other factors that influence orgasms
The main factor that determines whether I develop a desire for my orgasm is how good the sex was, depending on the man’s technique, and how much lust he has for me, and how strong our mutual attraction is.
Whether I desire an orgasm is also influenced by where I am in my menstrual cycle – follicular phase, fertile days, or luteal phase. It is perfectly normal for the strength of my sexual desire and arousal to vary during my cycle. This is another reason why I am not bothered by not having my orgasm every time.
Contraception has major effects. I use non-hormonal contraception. I have also tried hormonal contraception in the past, and I hate it. It causes multiple bad side-effects for me (both physical and mental side-effects).
I also noticed that hormonal contraception weakens my sexual desire and my ability to orgasm. It reduces my enjoyment of sex to some degree. It also worsens my mood, and my motivation to do anything, and my ability to think clearly. It also affects my weight and location of fat deposition in a very bad way.
Stress is another important factor that affects sex and orgasms. Many women suffer from substantial stress caused by the highly dysfunctional and unethical society that we live in.
Stress is known to make it more difficult to enjoy sex and to get an orgasm. Obviously it is highly beneficial to try to switch to a less stressful lifestyle if possible.